I still remember the initial consultation now…
We hit it off from the start, we gelled on so many levels, this is common for so many of my clients, shared interests, shared values, etc. A match made in tinder heaven you might have said, but this relationship was different, this was one built on trust, honesty, and compassion.
Analisia trusted me from the start with her dieting experience,
Shared with me how she felt in her body,
Confided in me about behaviours around food, how guilt was a never ending feeling for her.
Her confidence completely removed, having spent years in slimming world, trying to “fix” herself, only to feel more consumed by her body, by food.
Only to fall into cycles of binge eating, of restriction, of body shame.
The magical trait Analisia held however was courage, one of the first things she said to me:
“I don’t want to feel like this forever around food”
There was a goal of fat loss, but more it was a feeling of health she wanted to attain, one that ended the binge restrict, incessant thoughts around her body, and bought her back to a feeling of peace.
Because like us all, we once had it, I see it now in my 7 month old baby.
I can’t deny that Analisia didn’t find the initial process hard.
It was triggering for her.
It was challenging her in ways that she had never experience before.
At times she was confronted with the reality of her actions, that felt unnerving.
We were tackling years of generational trauma around food, bodies.
On one occasion Analisia told me she “didn’t like burgers”
Upon challenging her, it was that she didn’t believe she could eat burgers.
Subsequently her check in this weekend read:
“ I went for the burger in the end which was just a simple burger but it was unreal and I really enjoyed it.”
Another occasion “I can’t have Nutella in the house because I always overeat it, it’s a big trigger for me”
Upon working through this, now Nutella in her words “Just keep a jar in the house and can take or leave it”
But these are only two changes Analisia has made.
The process we have been through has seen the following…
Going out and buying new clothes with friends, having avoided shopping for years.
Going on holiday to an all inclusive buffet and never once feeling like she overate or had any guilt.
Managing the MOST stressful job without swinging by the co-op to binge on chocolate.
Going out socially with NO food anxiety or preoccupation, being able to order food she genuinely enjoys and nourish the experience.
Creating more presence, more awareness and the ability to PAUSE and check in, removing people pleasing, and stopping in the moment, to prioritise herself and take action that feels aligned.
Actually LIKING her body and respecting herself.
No longer binge eating, or emotionally eating, and eating ALL foods without any judgement, better still she says NO too on occasions where she CHOOSES to and implements boundaries.
And so much more….
But I won’t lie,
During the months Analisia has wanted to quit, she has wanted to throw the towel in. But each time we worked through the fear, the uncertainty which has allowed the most beautiful healing journey.
For years Analisia believed she would never change,
That food would always consume her.
That she would never accept her body. Even at times she’d push back, in particular just recently
“I’ll never be able to not overeat mini eggs”
And how we are now…
“It’s mad but I don’t want nor feel like I need to binge them or feel like I can’t control myself around them!!! It’s so weird!! I just tell myself I can eat more if I want to but when I ask myself if I want more I don’t. I ran out of the mini bags this week too so I bought a larger bag and actually didn’t eat them all! I left half the bag!”
Or even “I’ll never like my body, it’s been this way for years”
Yet this is her current situation.
“I notice that I feel more confident in my skin”
That initial trait of courage, along with our relationship meant together we were able to break down beliefs, and pursue a direction with bravery.
Analisia trusted me, she knew that even in the tough times, this was right.
Maybe it’s my hilarious banter, or maybe it’s that I have you feel seen, heard, validated, I guide you with openness, at your own pace.
There were weeks we’d cycle the same behaviours until it felt more comfortable.
I believed in her throughout, like I do all my clients.
Thrive with life is the space you fully heal, come home to your body, rebuild your confidence, your autonomy, your self esteem and find your own journey in this weird world.
It’s a place of freedom, peace and inclusion.
It’s a place of sustainable health, however that looks for you.
It’s the mindset switch to end the subscription to diet culture and attain the results you’ve been longing, with tools to navigate situations for life.
Analisia has a bank of tools she uses now, sure we’re working on so many different things now,
But Analisia no longer internalises failing,
No longer feels consumed by food, her body is her home.
And her fat loss is peaceful..
We are opening ONE space this February to join our bespoke 1-1 coaching, guaranteed to take you out the pits of dieting and into a world just like Analisia, but in a way for you, because you are special, unique and NOBODY has the same journey.
Follow the link below, we can have a free no obligation chat about the coaching we offer.
And I promise to beg Analisia again to come on the podcast so you can hear ALL about her journey in her own words.
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